I’ve never talked to anyone. I’m used to handling things on my own. Aren’t people who go to therapy weak? How can therapy or counselling help me?
Not at all. People who ask for help know when they need it and have the ability to reach out. Everyone needs help now and then. You already have some strengths that you’ve used before, that for whatever reason isn’t working right now. Perhaps your situation feels overwhelming and is making it difficult to access your past strengths. Perhaps you would like to learn about other strengths you didn’t know you had or could develop to help you navigate and cope with your difficult situation. In our work together, I’ll help you identify what those strengths are and how to implement them again in what is happening now. Psychotherapy or counselling can help you experience a reduction in the intensity and frequency of the symptoms that caused you to seek therapy in the first place. It can also help you feel supported during difficult times in your life.
What’s the difference between talking to you or my best friend or family?
The difference is between someone who can do something, and someone who has the training and experience to do that same thing professionally. A qualified mental health professional can help you approach your situation in a new way– teach you new skills, gain different perspectives, listen to you without judgment or expectations, and help you listen to yourself. Furthermore, therapy is completely confidential. You won’t have to worry about others “knowing my business.” Many of our friends and family may mean well and you may have received advice that sometimes may not be helpful. It is my personal philosophy that each person knows deep down what is the path for them, sometimes we need help unlocking and developing that intuitive sense. Lastly, if your situation provokes a great deal of negative emotion, if you’ve been confiding in a friend or family member, there is the risk that once you are feeling better you could start avoiding that person so you aren’t reminded of this difficult time in your life.
Why shouldn’t I just take medication?
Medication alone cannot solve all issues. What medication does is treat the symptoms. Our work together is designed to explore the root of the issue, dig deep into your behavior and teach strategies that can help you accomplish your personal and/or relational goals.
Medication can be effective and is sometimes needed in conjunction with therapy.
If I seek therapy, does it mean there is something wrong with me?
Seeking help during rough times in your life is very normal. It does not imply there is anything wrong with you. The benefits of therapy are applicable to everyone, especially during difficult times. Those who decide to seek therapy are choosing to elicit positive changes in their lives.
How does it work? What do I have to do in sessions?
Because each person has different issues and goals for therapy, therapy will be different depending on the individual. I tailor my therapeutic approach to your specific needs. It is very normal to feel nervous or intimidated about seeking therapy or talking to a stranger! I seek to provide a safe, compassionate, understanding and nonjudgmental space and atmosphere to deeply connect and for you to discuss the difficulties that you feel comfortable disclosing and collaboratively working on.
How long will it take?
Unfortunately, this is not possible to say in a general FAQs page. Everyone’s circumstances are unique to them and the length of time therapy can take to allow you to accomplish your goals depends on your desire for personal development, your level of commitment, and the factors that are driving you to seek therapy in the first place. All of this is typically discusses during our introductory sessions.
I want to get the most out of therapy. What can I do to help?
I am so glad you are dedicated to getting the most out of your sessions. Your active participation and dedication is crucial to your success. It’s the work you do outside of our sessions that will really help you see your personal growth and development.
My partner and I are having problems. Should we be in individual counseling or come together?
If you are concerned about your relationship, and you would both like to work with me, I would initially work with both of you together. After this work, if one of you would like to continue in individual sessions, I could work with only one of you. It is not helpful to move from individual into couple’s work with the same therapist because of potential trust issues. I can refer one of you to a colleague thereafter.
I work during the day. Do you have evening and weekend appointments available?
Yes! I offer flexible office hours and evening and weekend appointments are available.